Countless celebrities have gone down the road to the self-destruction, from Whitney Houston to Britney Spears and even Elvis Presley. Some of them were able to get their lives and careers back on track, but sadly that is not always the case for everybody. And in my view, that’s because they invariably have an unresolved emotional hurt that has not been dealt with.
If you are someone who might be on the road to self-destruction, here are the five signs that you need to look out for.
Firstly, we all have our vices, however if you noticed that you start to drink more often, or you’re blazing weed a little bit harder than usual, or even that you’re calling your dealer every day instead of just the weekend, then it’s possible that you are on the road to self-destruction. You, therefore, need to be aware and mindful about what external stresses are going on in your life.
Secondly, if you’re on the road to self-destruction, your appearance may start to deteriorate. You might be somebody who puts on loads of weight, or you might be somebody that gets really skinny and develops that kind of sunken face look, where your cheeks dip in.
Maybe some of those vices I mentioned are consuming you so much they’re starting to take over your life and cause your health and well-being to deteriorate.
Thirdly, it’s all in the eyes because they are the window to the soul. It’s very hard to put into words, but I can look in somebody’s eyes and tell if their well-being has started to take a nosedive. There is something about the eyes that reveal the truth.
The fourth thing to look out for is we relinquish our responsibilities. We all have to juggle various demands in life, from job, career, relationships and family lives to health and well-being. When we’re on the road to self-destruction, we start to drop the balls and we forget to stop taking care of our relationships – they begin to deteriorate.
Again, we may stop looking after ourselves, or choose to skip the gym – all those small things start to drop away and this is a sure sign that we’re on the road to self-destruction.
The fifth sign that you are on the road to self-destruction is the feeling that you have reached ‘rock bottom’. Rock bottom can be a very personal place to go to and one person’s rock bottom is not going to be the same for someone else.
For example, you may be someone who has lost your job and that has inspired you to change. However, somebody else may have lost their job and that might have led them to drink more alcohol, go out driving, get caught, get arrested and end up in prison.
However, if that does speak to you then my advice is to get help now and seek the support that will make you aware of your actions and their potential consequences.
If you’re a celebrity and you’re on the road to self-destruction, I believe you’ve got three additional factors that compound your pain.
Firstly, it can be lonely and isolating at the top. You may not have any genuine people who you can really talk to and this can have a direct impact on the way you feel because you don’t know where you can turn to.
Secondly, you may have lots of ‘yes’ people around you – people who are invested in you and need you to be producing and working. It may not be in their best interests to tell you to take another six months off because they will lose their income stream.
Thirdly, and my intention here is not to offend with this particular point, but you may have used your finances to solve problems before.
This is an emotional problem and while throwing money at it may get you into a comfortable rehab situation, the inner work needs to be done and that is not for sale. That takes time and is a process.