Why love hurts (and why self-love is the key) (eBook)

Do you keep attracting, users, losers and abusers?



You might think, It’s all very well saying ‘self-love’, but what does that mean, how do I actually go about doing it, and what does it have to do with my current problems? Self-love is not generic; it’s as unique as your fingerprints and needs to be applied according to the battles that you’re facing. This book is designed to wake you up, taking you on a journey where we break down why self-love is fundamental to your relationships and why getting ‘woke’ is the key that will revolutionise your love life. Discover why having ‘a certain type’ is a problem, how you inadvertently screw yourself over, and the unconscious processes that keep you repeating the same cycle again and again.

You need this book if you:

  • Feel baffled by your relationships and don’t understand why loving someone results in so much pain.
  • Settle for far less than you need and tolerate nonsense in the name of love.
  • Struggle with having boundaries and feel that your partner (or ex) mistook your kindness for weakness.
  • Always put your partner (or ex-partners) needs first and still end up feeling unwanted or unappreciated.
  • Have started to become secretive about your love life and as a result, feel isolated and anxious.

If you’ve answered, ‘yes’ to any of these, this book will provide the solace, comfort and insights that you have been looking for.

Engaging, practical exercises expose the excuses that often keep you stuck, plus you will also gain invaluable insight into the process of change, how it occurs, why it’s so hard and what you need to do to attain the love, that you know, at some level, you deserve. You will be guided and encouraged to see yourself as a work-in-progress so that you can choose self-compassion over self-condemnation. Light is at the end of the tunnel, and change is possible.

More on the book

Why Love Hurts is inspired by both my personal and professional experiences. Back in the late 90’s I was in a ‘give my all’ relationship that resulted in domestic abuse. That experience changed my life exponentially and inspired my career. Today, I am a psychotherapist in private practice, and I am proud to bring my ideas and vision together in a book that comes from the heart, that breaks down why love hurts, what we can do about it, and how the change process really looks like.

Bringing together years of knowledge and insights into an incredibly empowering read that has the potential to change your life, you will move beyond traditional self-help material and have an opportunity to do a deep dive into the unconscious dynamics that inform your intimate relationship patterns. This will provide you with crystal clear clarity about what steps need to be in place for you to revolutionise your life for you to experience the healthy, wholesome love that you know you deserve.

About this Version

This is a PDF of my book, first published in 2019.

You can find the Kindle version on Amazon, and you’ll also be able to purchase a paperback version there too.


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Why love hurts (and why self-love is the key) (eBook)

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